Comments on: Making It Last Forever

By: Mari

Mari — Sun, 04 Apr 2010 02:21:19 +0000

In my situation, we have no divorces amongst the extended family. What we do have is plenty of unhappy marriages. We’re Catholic, so the word divorce is like a 4 letter word. Yet that doesn’t mean that my relatives work their problems out and live in unbridled bliss and joy. Infidelity runs rampant, as does verbal abuse and spousal neglect. My own grandparents live completely separate lives, yet they cling onto their marriage like a life raft.

I made up my mind that I did not want to live that way. So for much of my life I was scared to death of marriage. I was deathly afraid that if I did get married, that all of a sudden a switch would go off, and my imaginary spouse and I would start loathing each other and engage in a war to see how miserable we could make each other. Irrational? Maybe. But because of this I avoided relationships.
That is until I met my dh. Bless him for his tenacity. When we first met he sensed my fear because he approached me as a friend and not as a girl he was interested in. We were strictly platonic friends for over a year before we started dating. Because we were friends first, I got to really know him well, and eventually overcame my fears. And I have never regretted it.

Perhaps because I had such a negative view of marriage, I am so pleasantly surprised at how happy I am. Yes it is corny, but he completes me.

Is it work? Yes? I have to work on withdrawing when things don’t go my way. But I am happier than I ever thought possible and I’m confident that yes we are FOREVER.

By: Mari

Mari — Sun, 04 Apr 2010 02:21:00 +0000

Perhaps because I had such a negative view of marriage, I am so pleasantly surprised at how happy I am. Yes it is corny, but he completes me.

Is it work? Yes? I have to work on withdrawing when things don’t go my way. But I am happier than I ever thought possible and I’m confident that yes we are FOREVER.

By: Tracy Robertson

Tracy Robertson — Sun, 04 Apr 2010 01:58:17 +0000

Good for you two! I’m glad that you are positive role models for couples trying to make it to forever. It’s really unique to be able to hear from both halves of a couple who know how to make it work.

By: Tracy Robertson

Tracy Robertson — Sun, 04 Apr 2010 01:58:00 +0000

By: Becca

Becca — Mon, 22 Mar 2010 12:58:40 +0000

I love this blog! What a wonderful kind of couples’ ministry you have embarked on by creating this. I found you via your comment on Pure Gold Lady’s blog (I was the guest blogger on post-divorce). Thank you for your encouragement and wisdom.

By: Becca

Becca — Mon, 22 Mar 2010 12:58:00 +0000

By: Monique

Monique — Sun, 07 Mar 2010 02:14:27 +0000

Thanks for sharing! This is a great resource for couples experiencing similar situations.

By: Monique

Monique — Sun, 07 Mar 2010 02:14:00 +0000

Thanks for sharing! This is a great resource for couples experiencing similar situations.

By: KayEm17

KayEm17 — Thu, 04 Mar 2010 19:35:01 +0000

Having a strong foundation in God has made all the difference in our marriage because let’s face it we all make mistakes. But because Fred and I have a common belief system to check our behavior against, we can usually pretty quickly identify when we’re “tripping,” apologize and move forward. I love my husband, but I love God more, so I want to be obedient to Him and what He says in the Bible.

By: KayEm17

KayEm17 — Thu, 04 Mar 2010 19:35:00 +0000