Comments on: Close the Door on Open Marriages http://www.makingitlastforever.com/2010/03/09/close-the-door-on-open-marriages/ Sat, 28 Jan 2012 14:25:00 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.1 By: mochadad http://www.makingitlastforever.com/2010/03/09/close-the-door-on-open-marriages/comment-page-1/#comment-252 mochadad Tue, 31 Aug 2010 23:28:34 +0000 http://www.makingitlastforever.com/?p=72#comment-252 Thank you for your perspective. I'm interested to know at what point in your marriage did you decide to have an open marriage and what prompted your decision? Thank you for your perspective. I'm interested to know at what point in your marriage did you decide to have an open marriage and what prompted your decision?

]]> By: Kenya K Stevens http://www.makingitlastforever.com/2010/03/09/close-the-door-on-open-marriages/comment-page-1/#comment-250 Kenya K Stevens Tue, 31 Aug 2010 23:14:06 +0000 http://www.makingitlastforever.com/?p=72#comment-250 I LOVE my open marriage. We've been married 14 years and opened at year 12. It's been beautiful. xo I write about it here <a href="http://jujumamablog.com" rel="nofollow">http://jujumamablog.com</a> Love and Light! xoxo It's difficult to share thoughts on open marriage if A. You're not married B. You have haven't been married 10 + years C. You have never been in an open marriage. <br><br>JujuMama I LOVE my open marriage. We've been married 14 years and opened at year 12. It's been beautiful. xo I write about it here http://jujumamablog.com Love and Light! xoxo It's difficult to share thoughts on open marriage if A. You're not married B. You have haven't been married 10 + years C. You have never been in an open marriage.

JujuMama

]]> By: Yakini http://www.makingitlastforever.com/2010/03/09/close-the-door-on-open-marriages/comment-page-1/#comment-240 Yakini Mon, 16 Aug 2010 05:54:16 +0000 http://www.makingitlastforever.com/?p=72#comment-240 An open marriage isn't an option for me. It makes my blood boil to even think about something like that. It also saddened me when Monique said it.... because, in my heart, I didn't believe that she really wanted that. <br><br>Great points made by both of you! An open marriage isn't an option for me. It makes my blood boil to even think about something like that. It also saddened me when Monique said it…. because, in my heart, I didn't believe that she really wanted that.

Great points made by both of you!

]]> By: Fruitfulvine2 http://www.makingitlastforever.com/2010/03/09/close-the-door-on-open-marriages/comment-page-1/#comment-111 Fruitfulvine2 Fri, 23 Apr 2010 14:14:15 +0000 http://www.makingitlastforever.com/?p=72#comment-111 I agree with the first commenter that open and marriage do not go together. The whole reason for marriage is exclusivity. What would be the point of getting married if you live like you're not. Please! .-= Fruitfulvine2´s last blog ..<a href="http://feedproxy.google.com/~r/jennifervalerie/Fruitfulvine2/~3/_KiDDq7tLvg/tips-for-wives-laugh-more.html" rel="nofollow">Tips for Wives - Laugh More</a> =-. I agree with the first commenter that open and marriage do not go together. The whole reason for marriage is exclusivity. What would be the point of getting married if you live like you’re not. Please!
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]]> By: Fruitfulvine2 http://www.makingitlastforever.com/2010/03/09/close-the-door-on-open-marriages/comment-page-1/#comment-347 Fruitfulvine2 Fri, 23 Apr 2010 14:14:00 +0000 http://www.makingitlastforever.com/?p=72#comment-347 I agree with the first commenter that open and marriage do not go together. The whole reason for marriage is exclusivity. What would be the point of getting married if you live like you're not. Please! .-= Fruitfulvine2´s last blog ..<a href="http://feedproxy.google.com/~r/jennifervalerie/Fruitfulvine2/~3/_KiDDq7tLvg/tips-for-wives-laugh-more.html" rel="nofollow">Tips for Wives - Laugh More</a> =-. I agree with the first commenter that open and marriage do not go together. The whole reason for marriage is exclusivity. What would be the point of getting married if you live like you’re not. Please!
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]]> By: Mari http://www.makingitlastforever.com/2010/03/09/close-the-door-on-open-marriages/comment-page-1/#comment-80 Mari Sun, 04 Apr 2010 00:16:14 +0000 http://www.makingitlastforever.com/?p=72#comment-80 Personally, I just don't "get" open marriage. It just doesn't make any sense to me. It is so hard to trust anyone in the first place, it took me 1 year of friendship with my now dh before we even started to date! I couldn't imagine building that kind of trust with anyone else. I guess that everybody has different "deal breakers", and for some, like me, it is cheating. Though I suppose if it was "open" that would mean that both parties would agree before hand that seeking others for physical or emotional purposes is acceptable. To each his own...but for me, I am a one on one kind of person. Personally, I just don’t “get” open marriage. It just doesn’t make any sense to me. It is so hard to trust anyone in the first place, it took me 1 year of friendship with my now dh before we even started to date! I couldn’t imagine building that kind of trust with anyone else.
I guess that everybody has different “deal breakers”, and for some, like me, it is cheating.
Though I suppose if it was “open” that would mean that both parties would agree before hand that seeking others for physical or emotional purposes is acceptable.
To each his own…but for me, I am a one on one kind of person.

]]> By: Mari http://www.makingitlastforever.com/2010/03/09/close-the-door-on-open-marriages/comment-page-1/#comment-346 Mari Sun, 04 Apr 2010 00:16:00 +0000 http://www.makingitlastforever.com/?p=72#comment-346 Personally, I just don't "get" open marriage. It just doesn't make any sense to me. It is so hard to trust anyone in the first place, it took me 1 year of friendship with my now dh before we even started to date! I couldn't imagine building that kind of trust with anyone else. I guess that everybody has different "deal breakers", and for some, like me, it is cheating. Though I suppose if it was "open" that would mean that both parties would agree before hand that seeking others for physical or emotional purposes is acceptable. To each his own...but for me, I am a one on one kind of person. Personally, I just don’t “get” open marriage. It just doesn’t make any sense to me. It is so hard to trust anyone in the first place, it took me 1 year of friendship with my now dh before we even started to date! I couldn’t imagine building that kind of trust with anyone else.
I guess that everybody has different “deal breakers”, and for some, like me, it is cheating.
Though I suppose if it was “open” that would mean that both parties would agree before hand that seeking others for physical or emotional purposes is acceptable.
To each his own…but for me, I am a one on one kind of person.

]]> By: Harriet http://www.makingitlastforever.com/2010/03/09/close-the-door-on-open-marriages/comment-page-1/#comment-66 Harriet Wed, 31 Mar 2010 13:22:27 +0000 http://www.makingitlastforever.com/?p=72#comment-66 Wow...I wish I would have read this article before writing my own. What's refreshing about it is the balanced viewpoint between husband and wife. That's beautiful! At any rate, I agree...open marriage is, as I stated in my article, the "the greatest oxymoron known to man." After reading the comments here and in the article on BMWK, I've come to the following conclusion: the main issue is about right and wrong, and how others perceive it. If my viewpoint is based on moral absolutes (solid, concrete views of what is right and what is wrong), then open marriages are inevitably going to be a no-no. However, if my viewpoint is based on moral relativism (what's wrong for one person may not be wrong for another), then no boundaries in what so-called Bible thumpers (that would be me) call a God-ordained institution are necessary. Moral relativism contains too many confusing and immoral options, in my opinion. Pedophilia turns into "transgenerational relationships," and adultery turns into "open marriage." All these euphemisms...let me and my husband just keep it simple by doing marriage the way God ordained it. LOL Wow…I wish I would have read this article before writing my own. What’s refreshing about it is the balanced viewpoint between husband and wife. That’s beautiful!

At any rate, I agree…open marriage is, as I stated in my article, the “the greatest oxymoron known to man.”

After reading the comments here and in the article on BMWK, I’ve come to the following conclusion: the main issue is about right and wrong, and how others perceive it. If my viewpoint is based on moral absolutes (solid, concrete views of what is right and what is wrong), then open marriages are inevitably going to be a no-no. However, if my viewpoint is based on moral relativism (what’s wrong for one person may not be wrong for another), then no boundaries in what so-called Bible thumpers (that would be me) call a God-ordained institution are necessary.

Moral relativism contains too many confusing and immoral options, in my opinion. Pedophilia turns into “transgenerational relationships,” and adultery turns into “open marriage.” All these euphemisms…let me and my husband just keep it simple by doing marriage the way God ordained it. LOL

]]> By: Harriet http://www.makingitlastforever.com/2010/03/09/close-the-door-on-open-marriages/comment-page-1/#comment-345 Harriet Wed, 31 Mar 2010 13:22:00 +0000 http://www.makingitlastforever.com/?p=72#comment-345 Wow...I wish I would have read this article before writing my own. What's refreshing about it is the balanced viewpoint between husband and wife. That's beautiful! At any rate, I agree...open marriage is, as I stated in my article, the "the greatest oxymoron known to man." After reading the comments here and in the article on BMWK, I've come to the following conclusion: the main issue is about right and wrong, and how others perceive it. If my viewpoint is based on moral absolutes (solid, concrete views of what is right and what is wrong), then open marriages are inevitably going to be a no-no. However, if my viewpoint is based on moral relativism (what's wrong for one person may not be wrong for another), then no boundaries in what so-called Bible thumpers (that would be me) call a God-ordained institution are necessary. Moral relativism contains too many confusing and immoral options, in my opinion. Pedophilia turns into "transgenerational relationships," and adultery turns into "open marriage." All these euphemisms...let me and my husband just keep it simple by doing marriage the way God ordained it. LOL Wow…I wish I would have read this article before writing my own. What’s refreshing about it is the balanced viewpoint between husband and wife. That’s beautiful!

At any rate, I agree…open marriage is, as I stated in my article, the “the greatest oxymoron known to man.”

After reading the comments here and in the article on BMWK, I’ve come to the following conclusion: the main issue is about right and wrong, and how others perceive it. If my viewpoint is based on moral absolutes (solid, concrete views of what is right and what is wrong), then open marriages are inevitably going to be a no-no. However, if my viewpoint is based on moral relativism (what’s wrong for one person may not be wrong for another), then no boundaries in what so-called Bible thumpers (that would be me) call a God-ordained institution are necessary.

Moral relativism contains too many confusing and immoral options, in my opinion. Pedophilia turns into “transgenerational relationships,” and adultery turns into “open marriage.” All these euphemisms…let me and my husband just keep it simple by doing marriage the way God ordained it. LOL

]]> By: Wifey http://www.makingitlastforever.com/2010/03/09/close-the-door-on-open-marriages/comment-page-1/#comment-46 Wifey Tue, 16 Mar 2010 11:56:43 +0000 http://www.makingitlastforever.com/?p=72#comment-46 Great post! I'm not feelin' the open marriage thing either. I just don't believe that's what "marriage" is about. You both said it well. Kudos on starting such a great blog and conversation! Winks & Smiles, Wifey .-= Wifey´s last blog ..<a href="http://askwifey.blogspot.com/2010/03/pomaritas-anyone.html" rel="nofollow">Pomaritas Anyone?</a> =-. Great post! I’m not feelin’ the open marriage thing either. I just don’t believe that’s what “marriage” is about. You both said it well. Kudos on starting such a great blog and conversation!

Winks & Smiles,
Wifey
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