Comments on: Am I Responsible When Friends Divorce?

By: tyrone mitchell

tyrone mitchell — Sun, 11 Jul 2010 07:08:28 +0000

It definitely isn't your load. You spoke from your heart and your brain (more importantly) – and told him the right thing to do. He wasn't really looking for advice, he was looking for acceptance. My guess is that he was going to do what he wanted no matter what.

By: Fruitfulvine2

Fruitfulvine2 — Tue, 01 Jun 2010 15:51:26 +0000

Very good advice. A close friend of ours mentioned the d word a few years back and I am so thankful to say that through her opening up to me her marriage is on the right track now. They still have some issues but the d word is no longer looming on the horizon. I think it is our responsibility to pray and look out for our friends. Sometimes it may be inconvenient to get together with them but the sacrifice is sometimes necessary. We may not be able to save their marriage but at least we can know that we attempted and were there for them.
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By: Fruitfulvine2

Fruitfulvine2 — Tue, 01 Jun 2010 15:51:00 +0000

By: NikkiR

NikkiR — Tue, 01 Jun 2010 13:52:29 +0000

I have an older, married, trusted friend that has given me marriage advice several times. She has made me see things differently as a result of her take on things and life experiences. I also have another friend (my same age) that I occassionally discuss marriage issues with as well. They both give excellent advice and tell me when I’m wrong. I think it is good to have trusted friends with life experience that you can confide in. You don’t know the reason that God has placed that person into your life and it may be to give you a Word to stand on in your marriage. I am very thankful for my married friends that I can confide in.

By: NikkiR

NikkiR — Tue, 01 Jun 2010 13:52:00 +0000

By: {JeLisa} @ Blogging Ever After

{JeLisa} @ Blogging Ever After — Sun, 30 May 2010 16:45:55 +0000

Their divorce wasn’t about you, so don’t take on the burden of guilt when it isn’t your load to carry.

What you can do now is pray for them both and offer a shoulder if needed. And take what you can from the lesson. What a sad, sad lesson the divorce of a friend is. I’m 25, so I barely have any married friends, let alone divorced ones, but I can imagine how devastating it would be to see the demise of one of my friends’ marriages. Especially if it seemed like the divorce route was chosen based on issues that could have been resolved. There was a great article on CBN.com about this.
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By: {JeLisa} @ Blogging Ever After

{JeLisa} @ Blogging Ever After — Sun, 30 May 2010 16:45:00 +0000

Their divorce wasn’t about you, so don’t take on the burden of guilt when it isn’t your load to carry.

By: Cheryl

Cheryl — Sun, 30 May 2010 15:07:41 +0000

There was a time I’d have jumped into the middle of your marriage and your life playing God. Today I know better. Sometimes even the trusted friend I confide in doesn’t keep what I say to herself by sharing it with her own husband. We’ve parted ways as a result of that indescretion ~ the one that broke the camel’s back.

Only he and I can fix what ails us if we want to work. Some days I get tired of the effort it takes; when I’m more clear headed, I just trust that the Universe will guide us .

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By: Cheryl

Cheryl — Sun, 30 May 2010 15:07:00 +0000

Only he and I can fix what ails us if we want to work. Some days I get tired of the effort it takes; when I’m more clear headed, I just trust that the Universe will guide us .

Cheryl’s last blog ..The Game's Afoot . . .

By: amber

amber — Sat, 29 May 2010 23:30:30 +0000

I have a hard time just stepping aside and not at least offering to be one who can listen and be a support to them both. I agree with a comment above, there are 3 sides to the story, his, hers and the truth. The couple will do what they want in the end, but it is nice to try to be there for them. And many couple do not want anyone around or involved. That’s when you just step back and pray for them and hope for the best!
That’s just what I think.

Don’t take on the burden of guilt, the choice was their’s.